The right psychotherapist is often represented in our minds according to the expectancies and necessities we have.
I remember the story of an American psychotherapist who was just making his own path. He asked a client, who had renounced to see him, what had determined her to have second thoughts and to go to another of his colleagues. She answered she had always imagined that a psychotherapist had a thick voice and wore big-frame glasses.
It is someone who chooses to come to the cabinet and what they have proposed to achieve by making this step that are much more important than the therapist. In its spirit, I have the purpose of understanding the model of the personal story (what the Adlerians call ‘lifestyle’), of identifying the areas of life in which they notice progresses (where the person has plucked up the courage of doing new things), the aims (unceasingly) pursued, whether these ones lead to the attainment of the coveted things or not, etc.
The way I unfold my cabinet activity is constituted by the merging of my personality with the principles of the Adlerian psychotherapy.
I’m interested in finding the cooperation with the person in the cabinet, in identifying the situation that at present troubles and in trying to see what could be made differently. Sometimes the discussions could be even easier and other times they require more effort and concentration. Sometimes it’s the therapist who can talk more and other times the subject does. There are instants when my statements serve to clarifying certain ideas or when they can be just some simple questions, and what does matter much more is the person’s courage to search for an answer to a particular question.